The spoiled child.....

Do you think that you have a child that is spoiled ?

Think again....
A child that is complete and filled with love within themselfs...does seldom throw tantrums, nor is the child comanding or insisting....
That the child is needy in any manner is the cause of lack of love, lack of attention...

Sometimes we are tired...life gives us stress and we feel we need to rest...
In this moments it is good and important to put limitations on our children...
Let them know that mommy or daddy needs a rest...

This days..they come now and then...or maybe even dayli...we just need a break...
It shows that life itself leaves time for us to give limitations and boundaries towards our children...

But what provokes me..is this that soo many parents guided by people with pretty diplomas, from books or from tv, telling them that they should put limitations and boundaries towards the children
soo they do not grow up spoiled...for me..this is just soo old century..

Think of it this way...just like we ourselfs dream of unconditional love...and such...children are also little humans having the same dreams...the same needs...

Soo..if you heart is filled with love..to give and to share and throw about around yourself...let your child be spoiled with that love...in any expression...playing games together, singing together...going for a walk together...or just watching cartoons together...or getting a new toy, and giving away another, to the Salvation army or whatever.....

In the west a child is spoiled cause of having to many toys....in places in africa or the third world in awhole...many see as child to be spoiled just cause the child has enough food....and can eat whatever they like...Something looked upon as a human right in the western areas....
And well...towards the many toys philosophi.....it is better for the child to be surrounded by toys...then to watch just a bit to much telly or pc.

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Maybe sometime in near or far future...toys will be looked upon as a human right for children...
The fact of their constructual abilities is still far from known....clever toys...toys that make you think...but not just such toys...also toys that help the child mold their perception by touching...not just for babies...but also for bigger children...and toys that enhance the imagination..."

Don`t hold back on that love...just cause you are scared of spoiling your child...
If you like to say yes alot to your child...then do soo...

There are enought people out there whoom are the type of NO parents...they like to use the word NO...almost to the edge of abusing it...

The world has changed soo much since we ourselfs where children...and many of us where told -NO-
often because our parents had to ..cause of poor financially or cause of tiredness or other reasons..life was tougher then...simple as that...

20 years ago life was harder on this planet...for all ...

But..now..life is easier...the possibilities are greater...soo that every child in this entire earth have the ability to have their dashes of spoilness...and grow proud and healthy...

Or splashes of spoilness............

To therefor go the other way..like on purpose...to give you child a tough time...when you know your heart is screaming to do otherwise..is madness...if you have the time, the love and even a tad of aboundance...let your kid take part in that aboundance.....
Do not
give the child a illusion of hardship.......there is noo need for such in such an earth as this one..where all we need is put on the evening news to see hardship....

Life...later on ..will make sure your child gets those bruises or smacks ...cause..even soo life can be tough...adulthood is a tough bit...of life...responsability, unfair situations. divorces..all sorts of yummi pain, unspoiled bits of life...

But with abundant childhood memories of joy and ....this peaces of life can be so much easier..cause one has something to relate back upon...sweet memories...a sence of truth...that life is good in the end...that happy endings do exist....

Childhood is like a bottle with water thru a dry landscape.....and that landscape is your life
You will want to fill that bottle up as full as ever possible...cause the water is the symbol of LOVE.

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